People often ask me “What is sexual addiction?” Although definitions may vary sexual addiction is the common name many use to describe a sexual behavior which can have some of the following characteristics
- It is experienced as preoccupying and out of control. There is often a sense of the sexual behavior escalating or the need to “push the boundaries” to obtain an even higher thrill.
- The sufferer finds that he or she cannot stop the sexual behavior, or if they do stop they cannot stay stopped, even after trying repeatedly. This often brings with it a strong feeling of failure and self-loathing.
- Sexual addiction often results in real or potentially harmful consequences—health risks, loss of employment, financial loss, damage to or loss of relationships, arrests for criminal acts and/or the neglect of personal values and goals.
Sexual addiction is not about any particular sexual behavior, or how much sex you have, but rather it is about how the behavior functions within the person’s life. The addiction is commonly used to ‘medicate’ negative feelings such as boredom, shame, low self-worth, loneliness, frustration, anger, stress and anxiety. It parallels the medical diagnostic criteria for substance dependence as both are usually used this way.
sexual addiction help
With individual therapy I provide a safe and confidential space to help the client overcome their behaviors by learning to address and manage the negative feelings in a healthy way. Strategies are created to help the client take charge of their life. Depending on the severity of the problem, and the levels of motivation for change, therapy can last anywhere from six months to several years.
I also offer a three-day boot camp which is an intensive program and is especially useful for kickstarting recovery.